My life has been filled with change for the last several years. Children are the best change to our lives. But not all change comes from something good. When I lost my Father 15 years ago, my life changed in an instant. Our family was never the same. You could see the strings that held us together start breaking. All it took was the passing of my Mother in 2001, to break the camel’s back. We fell completely apart. I rarely talk to one of my sisters. And for the other….we don’t speak. I stay in touch with my brother and we are close, but it still is not the same. We were a pretty close family, but apparently not close enough to withstand change. Strength and faith seems to be the key to surviving change, or atleast it is for me. That part of my life is like a chapter in a book. I am done with that chapter and moved on to another. Yet, the chapters are never ending. One day, the book of my life will close for good, but until then, change is always there waiting to end one chapter and start a new one. My husband and I are very close with our two daughters. What a change for me when our oldest went off to college four years ago. Sad, yes, but a good change for her. The beginning of her life and dreams. Now, I wait to see our youngest graduate high school in May. I am so afraid to see her go…..I feel she still needs us close. She was diagnosed 2 years ago with Juvenile diabetes. The thought of her being away from us makes me sick inside. But, I know, she too needs a chance to start her life.
My dear Aunt lost her husband to suicide a year ago. He was dying with COPD, a horrible disease. He just could not take it any more and chose to end his life. Now, what she feels she needs is change. At 73 years old, her chose is to move to another state to be closer to her son and family. Everything she has known for the past 40 years, she is leaving behind. Maybe the memories are too overwhelming for her considering the circumstances. I am so sad to see her leave, but I understand her need for change. Two more days I have with her, and then that chapter of my life closes too.
I find myself at a crossroad in my own life. I have dedicated my life to taking care of my girls. I resigned from my job when my oldest started kindergarten. I wanted to be there for my girls, just like my mother had always been there for me. I started working at the elementary school when my youngest started, and I am still there 12 years later. But this is my crossroad……I love my job working with children at the school, but it doesn’t pay anything. I have basically worked for the insurance all these years. Now, it is my turn for change. Time for my career, time for me. I don’t know where to go or what to do. I need to decide my path. My goal is to find something that best suits me, for who I am. I will miss all my kids at school. I get so attached to them. But change even finds me there. With every new year, those kids that I fell in love with, leave and a new group comes in.
Change……I wouldn’t say it is always good or bad…..it is what you decide to make of it. So I have decided to make this change for me….the best. I just have to decide, where I go from here…..Follow me on my path to find who I am and what I choose to be…..